| Topic: Does it get easier .......? |
| Posted : 16/02/10 / Views : 2113 / Replies : 24 | |
|  | Well I attended an audition yesterday and yet again I was told 'Lovely voice ... you're obviously very musical' ... followed by that big silent 'BUT'.
So does the rejection get any easier? How do people deal with the 'post rejection blues'? |
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| Reply #1: Re: Does it get easier .......? | Posted : 09/02/10 |
| | | One thing that helps me is to arrange wityh a friend to meet afterwards. Its always a help and reminds me I have a life. |
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| Reply #2: Re: Does it get easier .......? | Posted : 09/02/10 |
| | I like to treat myself to a frothy coffee and a few chapters of a good book- just to say well done to myself.
Do make the effort to take care of yourself and stay positive, because if anything, the cumulative rejections can feel worse... |
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| Reply #3: Re: Does it get easier .......? | Posted : 09/02/10 |
| | Look at it this way, you got an audition at least! This year thus far I've had none! One company I applied to knocked me back after promising to see me! Last year they sent me a message requesting my attendance but forgot to give me a time, date AND location til it was too late. So said they'd see me next time. I applied again last week, and 'application not taken forward' was the result!
Rant over.....
You'll be fine. Onwards and upwards! |
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| Reply #4: Re: Does it get easier .......? | Posted : 09/02/10 |
| | Its not as simple as that.Its not "You'll be fine"- thats very pat and not fair to say. Its bad enough not getting auditions but when you get them its easy to think its your only shot and then be crumpled up when you dont get them, cos you are desperate to work. totally understandable.
I went through audition hell recently where I kept getting good feedback but got no jobs. thats WORSE than no auditions. Iwas doing everything right but not getting through so I could not change anything.I managed to sort this out and am now getting the jobs.
Look after yourself, dont let that voice hit that says you are rejected and its ONLY you, or you have a radar that attracts this... sounds odd, but i think we can believe we are the only ones who dont get the jobs, even though its not true. I became ill for a time because of this. Its hard. I totally understand how you feel.
Remember that its usually rarely personal. Its oversaturated as a profession and prob that someone else fits the bill... not necessarily better
Make sure you exercise - get to teh gym and are around supportive people cos auditions are great but getting audiotions and also rejections can eat away at your self worth...dont listen to people who tell you to give up. Persevarnce is the goal.
I bumoped into patsy rodenburg on the train once and had a brief chat with her- she said that if I was getting auditions I was on the right track and would crack it eventually. Thats the point. You dont need to "make it " now. Nor do I, or anyone else on here. What she said really helped and that afternoon I got a lead in a job I was up for!!!!!!!! Things can change always.. keep on keeping on...
look afteryourself.
xxxx |
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| Reply #5: Re: Does it get easier .......? | Posted : 09/02/10 |
| | | Well said, Blake. I'm hopeful that when the winter gloom starts to dissipate, we'll all start to benefit from a healthy burst of Spring-time blush. Please, gimme some sunshine!! |
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| Reply #6: Re: Does it get easier .......? | Posted : 10/02/10 |
| | you see, thats part of it. Its not easy living in greay for six months of the year either, and that can also negatively affect perspective. Its tough.
Im not havihg a go aty anyone from what i said, I just think that we need to be happy if someone is getting work and if not support them. Sour grapes dont help. The general popyulation ae insensitive and ignorant to the profession and make us feel worse, so why bitch and dismiss each other when we could be helping each other???
David mamet said that he saw in the span of a twenty year career that some had their "big breaks" at the beginning, the middle or the end..he said he has witnessed that to be true.
Ours is an evolving craft and many who are good, focus and work hard will work, but many wont as well.
I am beginning to believe that the worst thing to get that WILL defo guarantee yuou dont work is bitterness, entitlement and jealousy. ALL of us battle with this and I think it affects actors more than we care to admit.I am speaking to myself when I say this- its grating when you KNOW you are better than what is being hired , or how the injustice of the profession can break your heart.
Auditions ARE difficult and whether you get the auditions or dont, you live with rejection daily. Lets build each other up here and really do our best- its a tough business. |
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| Reply #7: Re: Does it get easier .......? | Posted : 09/02/10 |
| | | Thanks guys ..... I'm feeling alot better and it nice to feel that I'm not alone. |
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| Reply #8: Re: Does it get easier .......? | Posted : 09/02/10 |
| | | I apologize if I came over as rude, was merely projecting my own attitude, which is 'grumble and moan, then try and stay upbeat'. Getting close to a job but not actually getting it DOES hurt, no question, but I stand by my statement! |
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| Reply #9: Re: Does it get easier .......? | Posted : 09/02/10 |
| | I often try and assume i havent got the part, and just block it out of my mind completely. Of course when its a project you're particularly keen on then thats easier said than done, but once you've done your bit, put it to bed. If so happens you do get rejected, then the dissapointment should at least be less.
Rejection happens to us all - 100 applications, 10 auditions, 1 job, thats a grounding staistic i like to remind myself of.
Keep rockin.' |
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| Reply #10: Re: Does it get easier .......? | Posted : 10/02/10 |
| | Ive gone past the worrying about it stage.
If you go in to a casting like a single man walking into a bar full of women,then youll never land the job.
Because every woman can sense desperation a mile away.
If you go into a bar when your going out with someone,then every woman is interested in you,because you must have something special.
Go to every audition as if you already have a huge career outside the audition room & suddenly you appear like the best thing ever.
Lets face it,were all just another face walking into a room,unless of course we fit the bill.Then all of a sudden were the person representing their work/product/production.Only then do we truly matter.
So why worry about something we can never really predict or control.
Just do your best.The rest is up to luck. |
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